Relationships within the family can sometimes be tricky. Yes, that may be a silly analogy, but that is exactly what they have.Let\’s focus on individual relationships. Let\’s start with sibling relationships. The first variation is that of two children, one older and one younger. From the perspective of the older child, this has several negatives. That first child, the eldest child, will love the attention, affection, and hugs of his parents, the storytelling, the gifts, and the buying of whatever he can get his hands on. But when the second child is born, all the privileges that the first child had are transferred to the second child. So the first child feels alone.
Most of the attention goes to the second child and the first child gets sidetracked. The older child then becomes a disgrace to the first child, as the older child has to go out with the younger sibling. As a result, they come to hate their siblings, shun them and tease them. The parents don\’t like it and punish the first child, but they don\’t realize why. Over time, they may get better, or they may get worse. The older they get, the wiser they become. If the firstborn accepts his siblings lovingly and well, a great bond is formed, full of protection, mutual help, and sacrifice, but that doesn\’t happen often. 26]
As for the relationship with parents, children receive it from the way their parents treat them and from what they forbid or allow. It should not be so. What is appropriate is for parents to keep a close eye on their children, but not to confine them to the house all the time and make them study and learn all the time, but to prevent them from going out with friends or having sleepovers. It is certainly a good idea to find a compromise. Often, a child\’s relationship with his or her parents is disrupted by the parents\’ divorce. It depends on how old the child is; if they are under 8, they may not understand well, but then, older children these days get along fine and know what is going on. If a child is very understanding and knows why his parents divorced and which side is at fault, he may not trust his parents anymore. For example, Dad may have found a replacement for Mom (or vice versa), and that would be a betrayal to the child, so he or she will not want to spend time with them.